Monday, January 5, 2015
Are You Jealous or Envious?
Yeah, that's so wrong.
Jealousy is when you are afraid of losing something. You are jealous your wife is flirting with another man. You jealously guard your Star Wars figures collection.
But you are envious when you want or desire some thing someone else has. You are envious of their trip to Cabo. You envy you're neighbor's wife (which is why he's jealous). You envy the talent of that guy in your writers' group.
Another word for "envy" is the old Biblical concept of "covet." "Do not covet thy neighbor's wife or donkey." (Believe me, I'll never covet my neighbor's donkey.)
If someone has it and you want it, that's envy.
If you're worried about losing something of yours, that's jealousy.
Don't confuse them.